Originally posted on Thought Catalog:
I think the reason most people are in relationships is to not feel alone. You get to experience things with a partner and love each other and stuff. Plus sex.
At least, I think the reason I am somewhat willfully single is that I don’t want to feel alone–and I feel more alone in a relationship than I feel being single.
Originally posted on The Number Kevin:
Last Sunday I attended my first church service in about six months. It’s been, altogether, a year or so since we stopped showing up regularly. Sometimes you build things up in your head. I guess, what I’m getting at is, the service wasn’t all that bad—a little boring, way too long, totally gloomy and forcefully emotionally draining, yes (as usual)—but not all that bad.
Good show boys… (golf clap)
We moved back to Coeur d’Alene for the month, so we visited our home church with Megan’s family. It was nice to see everyone and shake hands, catch up, you know. There were some big hugs given and that was nice. Those big, warm Sunday morning hugs—after leaving church—I think I missed those the most.
Your pain, deep as it is, is connected with specific circumstances. You do not suffer in the abstract. You suffer because someone hurts you at a specific time and in a specific place. Your feelings of rejection, abandonment and uselessness are rooted in the most concrete events. In this way all suffering is unique. This is eminently true of the suffering of Jesus. His disciples left him, Pilate condemned him, Roman soldiers tortured and crucified him.
Still, as long as you keep pointing to the specifics, you will miss the full meaning of your pain. You will deceive yourself into believing that if the people, circumstances, and events had been different, your pain would not exist. This might be partly true, but the deeper truth is that the situation which brought about your pain was simply the form in which you came in touch with the human condition of suffering. Your pain is the concrete way in which you participate in the pain of humanity.
Paradoxically, therefore, healing means moving from your pain to the pain. When you keep focusing on the specific circumstances of your pain, you easily become angry, resentful, and even vindictive. You are inclined to do something about the externals of your pain in order to relieve it; this explains why you often seek revenge. But real healing comes from realizing that your own particular pain is a share in humanity’s pain. That realization allows you to forgive your enemies and enter into a truly compassionate life. That is the way of Jesus, who prayed on the cross: “Father forgive them; they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23: 34). Jesus’ suffering, concrete as it was, was the suffering of all humanity. His pain was the pain.
Every time you can shift your attention away from the external situation that caused your pain and focus on the pain of humanity in which you participate, your suffering becomes easier to bear. It becomes a “light burden” and an “easy yoke” (Matthew 11:30). Once you discover that you are called to live in solidarity with the hungry, the homeless, the prisoners, the refugees, the sick, and the dying, your very personal pain begins to be converted into the pain and you find new strength to live it. Herein lies the hope of all Christians.
- Henri Nouwen
Originally posted on Thelma:
With just a few days remaining before the release of 15 brand new Arrested Development episodes on Netflix, the hype built up over the last year is raising into a crescendo. All fans of the show—whether they watched the series when it first aired, binged on its DVD/Netflix availability long after, or both—fully appreciate how rare a gift this is, and the launch of the entire season at once is sure to make for some raging AD parties.
More surprisingly, just last week, another beloved TV show by the name of 24 was pulled from the grave. Jack Bauer fanboy madness quickly ensued, and quite frankly, we shouldn’t be even a little surprised—Jack’s heart literally stopped at least twice during the show’s original eight-season run. The bonus season will likely air sometime next year, upping the ante as Jack saves the world in half the time he’s usually given—12 hours.
The revival of loyally followed shows like Arrested Development and 24 points to a rising trend of nostalgia permeating the TV landscape right now. Back when animated favorite Family Guy (2005) returned from cancelled doom, such a feat was almost unheard of. Turnover rate on the silver screen is and always has been extremely high, and at the end of the day, ratings were ratings. However, Family Guy rode its way to a reprieve thanks almost entirely to Adult Swim reruns and the introduction of DVDs as a new post-mortem metric for success, something streaming services like Netflix have now taken to an even higher level.